Son Number One: Reuben

In the Old Testament Jacob, that sneaky younger brother, was blessed by God and given a new name, Israel.Though we may be familiar with some of his sons, maybe Joseph, Benjamin and Judah, perhaps even Levi, I thought it could be interesting to do snippets of some of the lesser known sons.

Reuben.

Reuben is the first-born son of Jacob. His mother is Leah. Now if you recall the marriage of Jacob and Leah was . . . well Leah's dad, Labon, really worked one over Jacob. Jacob was beshnooked by Rachel the first time he saw her. And like any rational young man, Jacob agreed to work for Rachel's father, Labon, for 7 entire years in order to gain Rachel's hand in marriage. But Labon, being an honorable scum bag, tricked Jacob. After Jacob's 7 years of working for Labon the wedding was at hand; the party ensued and the veiled bride was brought into the marriage chamber. After consummating the marriage, morning broke and revealed a terrible truth the Jacob: he had married Leah, Rachel's older and uglier sister. Oops. (In some way though, Labon was doing his fatherly duty; sorry Jacob).

Needless to say, coming from Leah, Reuben was not the most favorite of Jacob's sons. Leah had put all her hope in her son, hoping that because of Reuben Jacob would like her; in fact, the name Reuben means 'See, a son.' So she is saying to Jacob at this time, 'Look! Look what I've given you; won't you love me now?'

In Chapter 35 of Genesis we see Reuben take his elder brother privileges a bit far, for he sleeps with his father's concubine. That's right, he sleeps with the one whom his father has made children with--more about that alter.

You remember when all of Josephs older brothers were jealous of him and wanted to kill Joseph? Well remember that Joseph was not actually killed, rather he was sold into slavery? That change in plans was because of Reuben. So some of the brothers were sitting around plotting Joseph's murder and Reuben walks up with a staff in his hand and asks, 'What's up guys? Just tending to some sheep or what?' They reply, 'We are going to kill our young brother. That's what's going on.' Reuben, a bit taken back, 'Ugh, I don't think that's a fantastic idea like y'all do. I hate him too but if he I don't want that blood on my hands. Let's sell him in a pit instead.' (Reuben actually wanted to throw him in a pit so he could save him later.) So there you have it, Reuben came in (sorta) for the rescue. And when, I guess when Reuben was on a smoke break (?), the brothers sold Joseph to some passer-by and Reuben found out about it he tore his clothes--which was what they did in distress back then--and took Joseph's old robe and dipped in blood and telling his father that Joseph, unfortunately, was eaten by wolves.

Reuben never forgot about this incident and years later when the famine came and Joseph, who was in disguise, wanted to make his brothers nervous in Egypt, Reuben looked back and said, 'See!! I told you God would not let this go!' He, apparently, was backing-packing this guilt the whole time.

Well when ole dad was gettin up there in years he decided to go ahead and bless all of his boys. At this time and place in the world the oldest brother would receive almost, if not, all of his father's inheritance, along with all the power. So Reuben should rightly be thinking to himself, 'This is it, this is when I finally get all the blessing my father received from his father and God.' And when Jacob began, it seemed like it would happen that way. But it didn't turn out so good for Reuben. Jacob said clearly that because Reuben slept with Jacob's concubine he would not receive his inheritance normally due him. This would have rocked the socks off of Reuben in the worst and most disappointing of ways. In addition, it was said in that Reuben's line would be small--not a lot of people in comparison--this coming from Deuteronomy 33.

In the end, in Revelation, Reuben is still favored by God and blessed along with most of the other tribes of Israel.

It is important, I think, to see that sin has some very real and very lasting consequences. But we can also see that God's grace and love fulfill his promises and desires to do good to those who love him and repent.

helping others? I need help!

Have you ever had this thought: ‘I can’t help; I don’t have all my ducks in a row either’? Well I have. You’ve, no doubt, heard the saying, ‘I’m just a beggar showing other beggars where to find bread.’ We should accept this, realizing that the beggar is still begging. I’ve often wondered if Peter felt like an idiot saying anything after he betrayed Jesus and left his leader and friend to be killed all by himself. If I’m honest, if I were Peter I might not say anything ever again in public. Mess-ups and failures and sins are not the end; they are not what define those who are God’s children.

Take it from one who has, messing up in life does not disqualify you from helping others. Actually, if we are smart, we look to older people who have messed up but kept going. Wisdom fears God and within that idea is repentance, courage, hope, accepting God’s forgiveness, proceeding. If we are tagged only by what we’ve failed at we will be of no help to others. 

We sin. I hate sinning. It sucks the life out of everyone. But it isn’t the end. Jesus said so when he woke up from the grave. Life together with God is the end. Though all may be against you today, God is for you. And that gives us reason to help out our co-beggars. The bible doesn’t say we must be without fault before we can give a parched person some water; God doesn’t say, ‘You better have all your spiritual ducks in a row before you forgive that person!!’ No, the sinning and screwing up does not need to be our life pattern anymore and if we have a way of encouraging another who is walking this difficult path we should use it, for ‘we all have gone astray, everyone to his own way’ and ‘there is no one who is righteous, not even one.’ 

So do you have that friend who you can help today? Don’t grow your past faults by withdrawing, go and help. We must not want others to experience the fire as we have. This is to love others more than yourself.

how often can you fail?

Failure is a word I hate. Not that I infrequently encounter it, rather that it and I are too acquainted. For many, failure is associated with 'losing,' with 'not measuring up,' with 'not good enough,' with 'others are better,' with 'messed up,' and so on. And with some, it quickly unravels to the thought of 'no one, not even God or my closest family likes me.'

Failure is a field where lies can grow. Failure is also a pause in time where, if it is not met with goodness, can harm for years to come. I've felt many many times. Whatever arena it is found--sports, morality, relationships, writing--it can crush a soul.

But we don't have to live in the presence of our past; we don't have to wake up and live in the memory of yesteryear. It is not some magical mind trick; it is Jesus. 

All the times toy have not failed will never satisfy you. You can do 1,000 things perfectly right and the one thing you failed in will ruin it all. And if you did 1,000,000,000,000 things right you'd feel even WORSE about the one failure! You can't escape the imperfection of who you are. But we can go to Jesus in our imperfection and know that we are forgiven, we are loved, our existence is worth maintaining.

We are all going to fail in a multitude of magnitude and type. But if we are walking with Jesus our failures don't win; he wins. Death won't sting, it'll open a big door entering Jesus' brothers and sisters into an eternity without the torment of those mistakes we all have made.

God is good in his grace he grandiosely provides. If we are his, our failure loses, not us.

forgetting your memory

We sometimes like to use Paul's words in Philippians, where he says, 'forgetting what lies behind and straining forward to what lies ahead,' as a reason to never ever be thankful or delighted to be the Christian God has made us. We reason that if Paul is ditching everything in his past to go hard after more and more of God then, by golly, so should we!

The over-the-top people always offend everyone else because they tell everyone how terrible of a Christian they are by not being like them; but then there are others who are all about some self-abasing-but-I-actually-pride-myself-a-lot inner thoughts kinda folks--it's easier to harbor my feelings of arrogance than manifest them. But both run with Paul's words of forgetting what's behind.

Is this past-neglecting really a commendable mental exercise?

No.

In the Old Testament God often told people to make memorials. This usually happened after God did something to save the people or fulfill a promise. The purpose of these, usually, mountains of rocks was for the purpose of remembering what God had done, how God blessed his people. When a family was traveling or exploring and they came across, say the monument built after the Jordan River crossing, it was to be used as a reference for a story; a story of how God, the YHWH they still worshiped, freed them and brought them, after 40 years of chasing their tail, to a Promised Land.

I personally, like some red-faced and sweating boss, want results immediately--YESTERDAY!--and it better be new and exciting. I have a hard time soaking in what God has done already. And Paul isn't saying Be unsatisfied with your worship; be unsatisfied with God; be unsatisfied in your walk with Jesus! Paul goes on to say Let us hold on to what we have already attained.

So let's remember what God has done. Let God's acts of time past give faith for today.

Jesus needed help

The Gospel according to Luke has some different perspectives than the other Gospels, especially with regard to Jesus' last days. So in Luke 22.43 we read that an angel from Heaven appeared to Jesus in his distress and strengthened Jesus.

Don't miss that: an angel from Heaven strengthened Jesus! 

I think it would be far too easy, though helpful, to summarize and say, 'If Jesus needed help, so do we.' But there is something bigger and better going on! God the Father knew that his son needed strengthening and the Father provided that strength for his son.

I don't know what the Greek word translated into 'strengthen' means, except strengthen; meaning, there was a lack or a need of provision form without. The Man needed God. God needed God. And God provided what was needed.

I'll be the first to admit that I also don't understand all the intricacies of Jesus' manhood and divinity at play here, it's all as clear as mud to me. That isn't the point though. This doesn't mean that God will give you everything you think you need. We can't take one story and mean it will happen for everyone.

But, as the children's song goes, 'when we are weak he is strong' because God loves us, his sons and daughters.

I'm not listening!

A silly strand of reason exists in some minds: if someone is wrong about one thing, they are more than likely not accurate in most. To believe such a farce is foolishness at its brightest.

You know what I'm talking about, right? Say you are listening to your new favorite broadcast. You have been learning interesting little facts about whatever and boom, the speaker says something you completely and from your core disagree with. Suddenly you've not only personally boycotted the now formerly new favorite person, but your tweets and Facebook status bemoans the individual (and if you are from the American South, you may add a 'but bless his heart' at the end.)

But I don't do that at all, you say. Oh yes you do, we do it all the time. A reason why we often think we don't fall into such a thing is because we do it to book writers. I will briefly give some reasons why you should read authors you know you don't agree with:

1. They may say just something helpful. Sure, you think they are snide, arrogant and better off living in Antarctica but who knows where something helpful might come from.

2. They may be more than their phrases. I know that often I can hear one thing come from someone's mouth (or pen) and assume ten thousand things about that person. How dumb is that? That's like meeting someone for the first time; they sneeze in the first five minutes and you assume their body is devolving and they are gonna die soon. Yea, doesn't make a lick of sense, so let's not do it with people's words.

3. We are arrogant and prejudice and opinionated ourselves. We assume that we are not only correct in our opinion--which we may or may not be--but that the other person is a little lower on the respect chain than the apes in Rise of the Planet of the Apes.

4. We could be wrong... (gasp)....Ahem, I said we could be wrong! I know, I know; it is a terrible thing to think that our thoughts are not divinely inspired, beating a golden path of righteousness as we go, but...

5. We need to learn to familiarize and respect contrary opinions. Many resist the counter (I'm not talking about running away from table-tops), they plug their ears when they smell something different. We need to learn how to walk into uncomfortable arenas of thought; shut up; listen; learn and not dismiss everything as asinine or sophomoric or from the Devil. Respect does not mean aqueous, get trampled on or accept everything. It means understand the idea and not resort to sophisticated belligerence and name calling.

There is an old saying: Learn to eat the meat and throw away the bone. When you eat a chicken wing you eat the meat, not the bone. This saying is applied to listening. If you willingly listen to someone who might think upside down from you and not immediately discount them, you will learn!

I thought this was a biblical blog? It is. Because of what Jesus did in dying for sins and coming back to life, sticking it to sin and death, we don't have to be right all the time. That doesn't mean we should ignorantly live and be okay in our stupidity; rather, we can know that ultimately God's truth will always, in the very end, be revealed and win out. We can be humble enough to listen to other people and not tune them out because those who have been saved completely by someone elses doing are already humbled (we just forget it most days).

Any thoughts or additions? Please comment.        

puppy joy

I have a puppy. She is almost 5 months old. There were often times when I would go to let her out of her crate and notice that she had peed everywhere and, apparently not caring too much, laid in her own mess. But when I came to the crate door she would go crazy! Her mouth was open; her body was grooving; her tail whipping around. She didn't seem to remember how gross she was. In her joy of seeing me--and probably anyone else who would let her out--she disregarded her mess and stinky odor.

We should be more like her. We are constantly screwing up and making significant messes. But God continues to come; God continues to love. I am not at all saying we should be cool with our sin; but because of repentance and what Jesus has accomplished on our behalf we should not refuse joy. 

For some reason, I have a meter in my mind: if I sin I have to wait a certain time limit before being okay with God, before I can crack a smile. This is a lie, though. There is not a word in the bible about mortifying yourself for God, for repentance. John Owen, a long-time dead guy, said that we have to be killing sin or sin will be killing us. This is true. But we are not to be like the priest in The Scarlet Letter who would wound himself after committing sin. No, Jesus died for our sin; we need to add nothing. I don't want to sin and I don't want you to sin but, as the end of the book of Jude reminds us, it is God who will keep us from stumbling and who will present us without blemish and in joy before the Father. 

We should be quick to remember our Savior's strength, not our sinful succumbing. Because of Jesus' life, death and resurrection, sin is no longer a gateway to wrath; Jesus has tread on sin and unplugged its power. 

So we have the opportunity for joy, even in our messes, for God has done what we could not; he took a three-day trip where we would have been obligated to live; he undid all that we made and gave all that we could never earn. So we could wag our tails in his presence.